|#7 | Posted: 12 Mar 2007 16:53|
I'm a T-Girl, have been for a few years now, but my current boyfriend has no idea. I've always told the previous guys I've dated about my past -- I thought it best to be up-front about that sort of thing. But with my new guy, I don't know, I just never worked up the nerve. To be honest, he gives off something of a homophobic vibe, and I was afraid he might freak out if I told him too soon. I kept on stalling, telling myself I'd definitely tell him before we had sex, but then one night we went to this bar where they had 2-for-1 cocktails, one thing led to another, and... you know how it goes.
I wish I'd been honest in the beginning, because now I'm totally in love with the guy, and if he dumps me because I'm a T-Girl, I'll be totally devastated. I know what you'll probably say, that if he can't handle the truth, he's not the man for me, but honestly, Cookie. If you saw him, the guy is six-foot-four and has the hunkiest body I've ever seen! And he's so sweet and loving! It's definitely the best sex I've ever had in my life. And what's more, in the last week, he's started dropping hints about marriage!!!
If he proposes, can I marry the guy without telling him about my past? I'm a girl now -- does it really matter that I used to be a guy?
--Living in the Moment